Hello all- I've been married for 7 years and with my husband for 15. We have a pretty good sex life......except.........he is just awful at giving me head. He loves to do it and wants to all the time but he is so bad that I just can't wait to bring him back up (no pun intended). I've been with many partners in the past and used to like it. Never paid enough attention to notice what exactly they were doing to be able to tell him though. When I try to explain  he is receptive  enough but I can never seem to communicate it properly. I know this is a very individual thing but maybe there is some video that address men licking women that I can get for him? I have a birthday coming up and I'd love to get him something that would teach him how to really lick me good. That would be the kind of present that would just go on giving. So guys or gals, any ideas?
Thanks.

You are the best teacher.  Forget the vidieo, just sit him down and show him what you want.  He will understand if he really loves you.  If it is that important to you he will understand.  Show him step by step, tell him what feels good and most important what does not.  My first experence with this was with a person a cared for very much and we both had fun and took time to understand what we were doing.  remeber sex should not done in the dark and just in your bedroom.

Have your husband just imagine that you are an ice cream cone that he is licking on a hot, summer day.   .... all around the base and up to the tip of the cone.  This should bring you immense pleasure ... it does the trick for me.  C.

Imagine it's a lolly pop... and he keeps sucking and licking it. eventually, you will squirt massive amounts! She always does, and then convulses!!!! That's how I always imagine it with my g/f... I shoot massive amounts of cum after that as well..!

I love eating out my wife and she cums every time I do. But about a year ago I began to wonder "what can I do to make this even better for her?" When I'd ask her, she'd just say "keep doing what you're doing?" or "You know better than I do". I didn't really understand this, and though she was just being shy for some strange reason.

So I began my search for learning how to really go down on her and have come across a few good (audio)books and videos that helped me tremendously. I get my audio books from Audible.com (go ahead and subscribe, it'll be much cheaper) and my videos from two online sites, Sinclaire Institute and the Alexander Institute. (Google them). They each have many videos on teaching oral sex. I actually learned more from the audiobooks, but the videos provide a visuals that helped me 'think outside the box'. (pun intended)

Audiobooks:
"She Comes First" by Ian Kemer
"How To Give Her Absolute Pleasure" by Lou Paget
"Anatomy of Pleasure" by Victoria Zdrok

"She Comes First" is the only book that's completely dedicated to pleasing women orally, but the others were extremely helpful also. A woman is more than just her pussy and as a guy I was totally underestimating how her entire body plays into it. Relax and romance is the first step to great sex for her. Also the female anatomy is rather mystifying to us guys (and a lot of women) down there. A little instruction goes a long, long, long way.

Anyway, now I drive my wife literally crazy when going down on her and she frequently cums screaming her head off! This is a feat since she tends to be the 'quiet' one in bed. She laughs at herself when this happens and has no idea what I'm doing differently.

One important thing I learned is that it's VERY common for a woman to not really know what a guy does 'down there' that turns them on, and if they do, it's can be very difficult to put into words. A lot of women feel this way, so now I don't press my wife on this.

One last thing. Relax... and don't worry. Watch the videos together. Listen to the audiobooks. Lou Paget makes a companion book to the one above teaching women about men called "How To Be A Great Lover". I listened to that one also and learned a lot about my own male body! That put me in a better position to verbalize to my wife what I'd like her to try on me.

Good luck.

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Hello all- I've been married for 7 years and with my husband for 15. We have a pretty good sex life......except.........he is just awful at giving me head. He loves to do it and wants to all the time but he is so bad that I just can't wait to bring him back up (no pun intended). I've been with many partners in the past and used to like it. Never paid enough attention to notice what exactly they were doing to be able to tell him though. When I try to explain  he is receptive  enough but I can never seem to communicate it properly. I know this is a very individual thing but maybe there is some video that address men licking women that I can get for him? I have a birthday coming up and I'd love to get him something that would teach him how to really lick me good. That would be the kind of present that would just go on giving. So guys or gals, any ideas?
Thanks.

He could be just so hot and horny he is not taking his time and being gentle.  I have had a few guys that really pushed a bit hard and went right to putting the tounge inside and moved to fast.  I have made partners I have had like this cum first.  I then explained to have how I would like to be licked.  Save it for the end.  After he cums in me or on me he can go down.  It really works.  You will get to point were he will understand how you like it and you willnot have to have him cum first.  He willbe gently taking care of your needs...

does this mean  he goes down on you  after cumming in you. and is he ok with that?

Two great videos we found very helpful is sold by sinclair institute

1. fire in the valley.  how to give a woman great oral sex. what to do and hot to do it.

2. fire on the mountain.....how to give a man greatoral sex.


some men try to hunch with their mouth. or bite. neither is pleasurable.
soft,gently pleasuring with the tongue. around the outside. the lips, the clit before pushing your tongue inside. then alternate pushing the tongue inside then bringing it out touching the clit with the tongue then back in. DO NOT HURRY. TAKE TIME.LET HER PASSION BUILD.

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does this mean  he goes down on you  after cumming in you. and is he ok with that?

Yes.  If my man can't take his own cum he will not be my man for long...

i wonder if this is a common view among women or not? my wife and i have never talked about that sequence of sexual activity

real men dont lick cum. period.

Why not.I love to perform oral on my wife right after I have shot my load.The taste of our juices mixed together not only turns me on but her on as well she has wild orgasams from me doing this.plus I think my cum tastes pretty good.I love sharing it with my wife.

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Why not.I love to perform oral on my wife right after I have shot my load.The taste of our juices mixed together not only turns me on but her on as well she has wild orgasams from me doing this.plus I think my cum tastes pretty good.I love sharing it with my wife.

MMMMMM!  I love when I take his cum with my finger and have him lick it off!!!  I agree!!!