I have been dating a girl for a while and recently we've started getting more intimate. I would really like her to give me a blowjob, but I'm not sure how to approach this. I have gone down on her several times so its not as if I'm unwilling to return the favor, so to speak. However, I'm pretty sure she has never done it before which makes me think that she will probably be scared to do so. Also, I'm a little scared to ask as I'm unsure what her reaction would be, I'm afraid she might think its disgusting/demeaning and think that I think she is some kind of whore or something like that

If she's been receptive to cunnilingus, I don't see why she would find fellatio demeaning. It could be that she's just nervous and needs to ease into things. What can be off-putting for a lot of women in the beginning isn't the actual BJ, it's the ejaculate (it can gag a woman if it hits the back of the throat, and sometimes the taste/feel of it in the mouth is unpleasant). Perhaps sometime when the two of you are already immersed in a discussion about sex you could casually ask her if she's ever given a BJ. If she has and says she didn't like it, you could ask her what she didn't like about it. If she hasn't, you could ask her how she feels about it, if she has any concerns...and go from there.

No, I know what you meant: a gentle little push in the right direction. I never had my head "forced" into a guy's lap; I was referring to the same sort of gesture. Oral sex doesn't mean the same thing to the younger generation that it did to ours; it's no longer a taboo activity, girls have no reason to feel "whorish" for wanting to go down. If a guy goes down on a girl multiple times, the girl has to know that the guy is antcipating reciprocation--it's common knowledge these days. If a girl doesn't inititiate, she's most likely feeling nervous, and guiding her head isn't going to help her overcome her nerves, sorry to say. A blatant gesture like that could even backfire and cause her to feel increased anxiety. Whereas talking about it, getting whatever concerns out into the open, presents an opportunity to alleviate irrational fears or doubts, making her feel more relaxed. A relaxed sex partner is a better sex partner, I'm sure you would agree.

Thanks for all the responses. We talked about it and she said that she didn't feel she was ready and that she didn't think she would like how it tasted and she thought I would think less of her. I told her that I didn't want to pressure her and that I would never think less of her and we left it at that. However, a couple of days ago when she was giving me a handjob she just looked me in the eyes and started licking my penis and sucking it. She told me she wants to suck me all the time. funny how things end up

I never cum in a woman's mouth. I would never expect a woman to take it and I would never ask her to. The beauty of a blowjob is the process, the slow, wet, warmth of the mouth...the sensations that the vagina just does not provide. The guy does not need to cum in a person's mouth to make it a blowjob. Why can't you just enjoy it and pull away before you cum? That's exactly what I do and I get pretty regular service down there. The only time I've ever let it happen is when I warned her I was about to cum and started to pull away and the woman I was with held on for dear life...sucking every last drop down. It was the most erotic moment...partly because we both knew it was something new and different for us.

I just think it is extremely presumptuous to just let go like that. If she knows you are enjoying it for the intimacy and intense sensation and not just to have another way to shoot your load...she may be more "into it". And when she does, give real feedback...not lame shit like "suck it baby" or "deep throat me!"...just express yourself and tell her what feels good and what not to do ("no biting!").

For me, blowjobs are one part of foreplay. And...I confess to being a giver too...so having done so I can honestly say I would have liked a little warning that first time. I never used to assume I'd catch a load in my mouth, so my reaction wasn't all that positive. He felt bad about it and his wife chastised him a bit (especially since he didn't save it for her)...so later hook-ups (even those when it was just me and him) ended with me finishing him off by hand or leaving him (and myself) with a serious case of blue balls. He paid me back in kind....

I'm not going to claim to be any more 'enlightened' than anyone else...I just look at it like two completely separate acts. One is the blowjob itself...the stimulation with the mouth and tongue. The second is and always should be optional, agreed upon by both parties...the giving/taking of cum. Every aspect of sex is something that all parties involved should consent to and not just assume is okay with all others. Some things should be more explicitly agreed upon than others. I'm not trying to sound smug or superior to anyone here. I'm no mega stud and I don't claim to be entirely selfless in bed. I guess it's just the "golden rule"...do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Even before I gave my first blowjob I never really wanted to cum in my partner's mouth 'cause I knew I wouldn't want that for myself.

Maybe that is a little naive or overly sensitive...but I can honestly say that my most intense orgasms EVER occurred immediately after a blowjob when I was getting stroked by hand, lubed by my partner's saliva or vaginal juices. Hell...one time I even almost lost consciousness during an orgasm. hehe...quick story. back seat of a car...husband driving, wife going down on me. she pulled off and started stroking and kissing my cock and i swear to god my vision blurred, i don't remember trying to make a noise but i heard myself screaming and when my head cleared i actually had tears on my face. that one raised the bar for all my future orgasms and has yet to be matched

Yes be open with each other, talk about all aspects of the BJ.  Often pratice will help her to be at ease while you have the extreme pleasure of a job well done!

I am one who fears giving blowjob. I'm so afraid of hurting my man or doing it all wrong. i've also been told my mouth is too small. I need advice from others on how or what to do. My man performs oral sex on myself and i feel the need to return

Once you overcome this fear you will see what you hve been missing.  It took me sometime also to go down and perform my first bj. Here is how I handled it.  Lips on the tip gentle kisses and long licks up and down.  I did not wrap my mouth around the first few times.  I also kept my eyes open to see his reaction to what I was doing.  The warm of your mouth will take care making him feel good.  The most important thing is relax and let him feel you realy want to do what you are doing.   Once you get him to cum while giving a bj you will be hooked...i am

Lets face it men, in most cases the greatest sensation and pleasure is if
A) your lucky enough to be in a long term, perm relationship with a beauty that will go down (and actually doesnt see it as a chore or wifely duty)
B) Gets into it and enjoys pleasuring you
C) doesnt just tease all the time but actually goes to the end and makes ya cum
D) Ultimate, swallows then keeps licking and sucking that sensitive throbbing meat until its all out and ya start to go soft.

I agree, this goes both ways and both partners need to be totally open and comfortable. Whats good for goose is good for gander.    

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Once you overcome this fear you will see what you hve been missing.  It took me sometime also to go down and perform my first bj. Here is how I handled it.  Lips on the tip gentle kisses and long licks up and down.  I did not wrap my mouth around the first few times.  I also kept my eyes open to see his reaction to what I was doing.  The warm of your mouth will take care making him feel good.  The most important thing is relax and let him feel you realy want to do what you are doing.   Once you get him to cum while giving a bj you will be hooked...i am

Your advice worked well.  I'm so relaxed at going down on him now I do it even after him cums from intercourse.  Nothing like getting it hard in your mouth.  Thanks again..mmm.mmm..good....

I have given my friend of almost ten years his first blowjob.  His wife has told me that she just did not want to do it.  The poor guy is n his 60's.  I let him know what his wife told me.  II'm in my 30's and have gone down on many guys.  I let him know I would have no problem giving him a bj. I put my hand on him and felt it grow.  I pulled back his forskin exposing a ruby head  of his penis.  I must say it was one of best.  He was so hard and uncut.  He just lost it right in my mouth. He tasted fantastic.  His wife is missing a wonderful way to share with her husband.. I have him going down on me too.  She doesn't do that either.  I like going down on an older man.      

This site offers EXCELLENT videos of how to perform fellatio and cunnilingus!  Another site is Literotica.com -- I've learned many techniques and tips from my experiences.  Each man has preferences.

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I am one who fears giving blowjob. I'm so afraid of hurting my man or doing it all wrong. i've also been told my mouth is too small. I need advice from others on how or what to do. My man performs oral sex on myself and i feel the need to return

I was in your position.   I was afraid I would do something wrong or not know what to do.  This is how I handled it.  I let my boyfriend know when we were involved in foreplay that wanted to do something I have never done to anyone.   You can help me along if I do something that may not be right.  I want to go down on you.  I felt so relaxed.  It calmed me.  I went very slowly and put my lips on his penis and slid my mouth down and then just used my tounge.  I repeated this a few times then licked his balls and went back to his penis.  He came like crazy.   I had no problem tasting and licking his cum.  He was a little sensitive after.  I kept my lips on the lower shaft and rubbed his balls.  He said it was the best.  Be honest with your partner and it may work out like my experience....

I want to give my boyfriend a blowjob and he keeps pulling my head up!  Have any other women run across this?

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I am one who fears giving blowjob. I'm so afraid of hurting my man or doing it all wrong. i've also been told my mouth is too small. I need advice from others on how or what to do. My man performs oral sex on myself and i feel the need to return

I was in your position.   I was afraid I would do something wrong or not know what to do.  This is how I handled it.  I let my boyfriend know when we were involved in foreplay that wanted to do something I have never done to anyone.   You can help me along if I do something that may not be right.  I want to go down on you.  I felt so relaxed.  It calmed me.  I went very slowly and put my lips on his penis and slid my mouth down and then just used my tounge.  I repeated this a few times then licked his balls and went back to his penis.  He came like crazy.   I had no problem tasting and licking his cum.  He was a little sensitive after.  I kept my lips on the lower shaft and rubbed his balls.  He said it was the best.  Be honest with your partner and it may work out like my experience....

I'm not sure you could do anything wrong if you were my girl. Just focus on the first 3 inches which are the most sensitive anyway. Taking it deeper will come later. Licking AND sucking the underside of the cock really drives us to higher altitudes! Sucking on the head as hard as you can, like you"re trying to separate it from the shaft is very intensive. Experiment with ice, getting your mouth cold, is also heavenly. You will be an expert in no time, enjoy! 

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I am one who fears giving blowjob. I'm so afraid of hurting my man or doing it all wrong. i've also been told my mouth is too small. I need advice from others on how or what to do. My man performs oral sex on myself and i feel the need to return

I was in your position.   I was afraid I would do something wrong or not know what to do.  This is how I handled it.  I let my boyfriend know when we were involved in foreplay that wanted to do something I have never done to anyone.   You can help me along if I do something that may not be right.  I want to go down on you.  I felt so relaxed.  It calmed me.  I went very slowly and put my lips on his penis and slid my mouth down and then just used my tounge.  I repeated this a few times then licked his balls and went back to his penis.  He came like crazy.   I had no problem tasting and licking his cum.  He was a little sensitive after.  I kept my lips on the lower shaft and rubbed his balls.  He said it was the best.  Be honest with your partner and it may work out like my experience....

I'm not sure you could do anything wrong if you were my girl. Just focus on the first 3 inches which are the most sensitive anyway. Taking it deeper will come later. Licking AND sucking the underside of the cock really drives us to higher altitudes! Sucking on the head as hard as you can, like you"re trying to separate it from the shaft is very intensive. Experiment with ice, getting your mouth cold, is also heavenly. You will be an expert in no time, enjoy! 

OK..hmm!  You're the..OH! well I best not say..........

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I have given my friend of almost ten years his first blowjob.  His wife has told me that she just did not want to do it.  The poor guy is n his 60's.  I let him know what his wife told me.  II'm in my 30's and have gone down on many guys.  I let him know I would have no problem giving him a bj. I put my hand on him and felt it grow.  I pulled back his forskin exposing a ruby head  of his penis.  I must say it was one of best.  He was so hard and uncut.  He just lost it right in my mouth. He tasted fantastic.  His wife is missing a wonderful way to share with her husband.. I have him going down on me too.  She doesn't do that either.  I like going down on an older man.      

He stops by three times a week.  I have no problem with it.  The last time he came by I asked if he could do me a favor.  I have not had intercourse in a while.  I asked if he would mind.  My goodness is he good at it.  He lasted a long time.  We have been having sex now about two or three times a week. 

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I want to give my boyfriend a blowjob and he keeps pulling my head up!  Have any other women run across this?

I have had a couple of guys pull me up and cum.  I got right to the point with them.  Please let yourself be free to cum in my mouth.  I like tasting it!  If I'm going down on you I want it all...

My sister convinced me to not pull away or let him pull away..I did do that..now I let it cum in my mouth..some guys want to pull away before they cum..if they do I just go right down on it and lick it off..I then let them know I have no problem taking all...