One of my inner lips is very long, brown and wrinkly whereas the other one is much smaller and pink. I know that some women have big lips and others have small ones and I wouldn't mind if both mine were the same but the fact that they very drastically don't match really upsets me.
My clitoris on the side of the large labia is also really meaty and thick but it's not the same on the other side!
I've only had sex once in my life about 2 years ago and it was then that I noticed it and now it bothers me so much that I can't bring myself to get close to another guy again because I know he'll notice how odd it looks. It's made me really shy and self conscious and I've split up with guys once sex started to become an issue, which is a real shame!
Is there anything I can do about it? Or is there anyone else the same?

Everyones vagina is different.
...I dont know if yu have heard this, but you know how people are more critical about them selves, like I hate my legs but people tell me all the time I have great legs...maybe its not as bad as you think.

Yeah.. I'm sure it doesn't look 'bad', just different. Honest, I'm sure some people would even like that it's different.


But if you must, you may be able to get surgery and have the longer one trimmed... I don't know if they offer that, but if I were you, I'd stay you.

Hun, everyone is different down there. I have a giant brown birthmark that covers my left inner thigh, the left labia and part of my clitoris. It's flat, but it looks like I took a doo doo all over myself :/

I have never been embarrassed or uncomfortable about it because it's just who I am. I've had it since birth. It's visible in "short-shorts", and every bathing suit known to man shows it off. Yet, I was still on swim-team, wearing a bathing suit 3-4 hours a day. Screw what other people think!

If you treat your body as normal, other people will too.

Yes, both you and I could have cosmetic surgery to remove and fix these "blemishes". But I refuse to change what ain't broke. I can orgasm, and I bet you can too. So why risk a surgery that could potentially remove that?

I'll live with my giant freckle, thanks. It's my "love spot".

Not every woman is "perfectly even"! In fact, most women had "lopsided" inner labia, just like guys have one testicle that hangs below the other!

I know that if I was a guy, I wouldn't turn you down just because you had special labia. I'd cherish them!

There are fetishes devoted to large or uneven labia. Don't worry about it! He'll be so happy to be having sex that he either won't notice or will like it. Trust me. Guys aren't nearly as picky as we think.

I agree!  Everyone's vagina is different!

As a male, I actually enjoy a woman with big, longer lips and a large clitoris.  But I can also understand how it might make you feel unfortable.  I had the same problem with my penis.  I am uncirmcumcised and grew up feeling shy about anyone viewing it.  As I got older, I found out women actually don't mind it and it was not as uncommon as I thought. 

Just be yourself and do what feels good to you.  You will be surprised with the end results.  Best of luck to you!

Hi  I used to be bothered by the same thing. I too have one lip which is quite a bit larger than the other. It always hangs out between my lips while the other is hidden.  I  thought everyone was that way until I got old enough to be around other women who didn't mind being naked and was able to "inspect" them. I found out that the majority of them had inner lips that were hidden completely but more importantly I found out that many had inner lips that hung out  all the time and many like me had one that did. But more importantly I learned that which ever you had , it was normal and natural.
 After many  years of  worry and disliking my anatomy  I learned  to love it. I never once had a guy ever make mention of it so they really don't care about it either. Eventually I Went out and got it pierced and now wear  a little jewelry down there   to enhance it.

My vagina is a penis.

a vagina is a very beautiful part of a woman

Im really shy when it comes to showing my body :s although everyone tells me that i have a great figure im really self concious about it myself :s im 16 years old and im not a virgin. Not long ago i broke up in a relationship & i had sex with him but the first time we ever had sex with eachother i was too shy too show him my vagina, i dunno why because iv'e been with boys before but im too shy to show anyone it now. Im not concerned about my breasts, its just my vaigna is worrying me because i think boys would laugh at it. There is nothing wrong with it i just think im shy showing my body. Any ideas on how to overcome this shyness?

Take pictures of your vagina or have a close friend take pictures and post them on a website.  Wait for comments from viewers.  If the good comments outnumber the bad comments, quit worrying about it and and put it to good use for both you and the men you share it with.  If the bad comments outnumber the good comments, talk to a plastic surgeon to see if he can make it prettier.  Every woman should be proud enough of her body that she has no problem letting people see her intimate parts and getting the praise they deserve.  If you don't think you'll get that, ask for help from a professional who can do something to improve your vagina's appearance - a plastic surgeon.  My wife's was getting loose after having so many large lovers that she had hers tightened and I imagine some other things done, because it sure is a lot prettier.  Not only do I think so, but so does every man she has shown it to and that's a lot of men.     

omg i actually have the same problem, and its REALLY getting to me. i have been asked for sex off my boyfriend and in my self i feel ready but the thing thats always at the back of my mind is 'omg hes gunna notice it and then go tell people and finish the relationship!'
it really puts me down, and i have kept it in for a long time but i have just got fed up of it and just dont know what to do :/
do you think he will notice??
please dont lie just to make me feel better about my self because i would rather know the truth...

If your extremely worried, wear a short skirt. It will cover your vagina, and over time you will get over how it looks. And even that, if he a guy breaks up with you because your vagina looks weird or he just doesn't like it then he's not right for you. He should love you for you not how your vagina looks

k but nobody understand
when you have something on your vagina you get really self concious and that is the only thing on ur mind.
i have a birthmark and i have denied a guy for sex because i am scared of what he will think. as soon as he sees it he will tell all his friends who will be grossed out and he will never want to see me or touch me again.
im sorry for what ur vagina looks like
and i completely understand what your going through.
find the right guy who will wait long enough for u to feel confortable.
what u have isnt that bad dont be shy about it

uu guyss r all beautifull and it shouldnt matter how ur vagina looks...my lip is longer then the other one...sometimes i hate it but other times i think im not the only one and its okkk!

 my vagina lips are both brown but on the inside it is a normal colour.. is it normal that my lips are brown? I want to change it to a pink colour or a dark tanned colour like the rest of my body. Any tips on how to get my vagina lips to a normal skin tone and not this ugly brown?

My clitoris is large and hangs down past my lips, and the outside of my lips have seemed to darken...
im really self concious about it, and im too embarrased to even let my friends see it.
is there any way i can change this without going to a GYNO because im even too embarrased to tell my mom or sister about it.

MY CLITORIS IS LARGE AND HANGS DOWN ABOUT AN INCH PAST MY LIPS AND THE OUTSIDE OF MY LIPS HAVE SEEMED TO DARKEN...
IM REALLLLY SELF CONCIOUS ABOUT IT AND IM TOO EMBARASSED TO EVEN LET MY CLOSEST FRIENDS SEE IT.
IS THERE ANY WAY I CAN CHANGE THIS WITHOUT GOING TO THE GYNO BECAUSE IM EVEN TOO EMBARRASED TO TELL MY MOM OR SISTER ABOUT
IT. 
PLEASE HELP ME!

I have the same problem and i rly dont know what to do ! one of the lips just looks like steak .... its horrible ... im quite happy to know im not alone :) thx

I have never ever seen one that I did not find atractive and sexy.  It's refreshing to know everyone has a little bit of their own to give.   Be happy to have what you have and the confidence to show it off.  If your partner doesn't like it  they are not worth it..